Up and Down

Today has been crazy. And I’m feeling a little silly, so I’m going to break the ups and downs of today into a playlist of sorts (there are links to each song)…so here’s my Wednesday…

• “Let It Snow” - This morning when the pup and I left on our run, it was snowing and very windy. But we ventured out nonetheless.  It was a cold but invigorating run, and about halfway through the snow stopped.
• “Flight of the Bumblebee” - Later in the morning, while I was getting ready to head for work, I let the dog out into the backyard, and she ran out to chase a squirrel.  Well, she caught it and then it escaped, and then I chased the dog, chasing the squirrel.
• “ABC” - Kindergarten…great day in kindergarten.  Full of reading testing, writing thank you letters to the Kiwanis club,  and learning how to solve problems using Kelso skills.  Favorite kindergarten quote of the day, “I know this letter, it’s S, I always know it, it’s just is stuck in my brain all the time.”
• “It Never Entered My Mind” – I came home from school to find that my roommates would once again be out of the house for the evening (fifth night in a row).  I always thought that if I lived with people, we’d actually be at the house together, that’s how it was when I had roommates in college, and maybe having roommates post-college is different. But I may as well be living on my own, it’s frustrating and also disappointing, but mostly lonely.  (Also, this is one of my favorite jazz songs ever, love Miles Davis)
• “Blindsided” – It’s payday today, which should be a happy day, and it started out that way a little like this “Just Got Paid” but after paying rent, utilities, student loans, cell phone, and other assorted bills I realized that once again I will have to dip into my savings account to make ends meet this month, even with the added cushion I gave myself with my tax refund.  Definitely felt blindsided.  I’m not going to lie, I got a little over emotional about it.  For the past two years I’ve had plenty of money, and was able to spend it however I wanted while still paying bills, and putting money into savings, now I’m scraping by and it’s been tough. I’m not destitute and I am blessed to have a job and a roof over my head, I know there are people in a tighter fix than me, but I feel like I’m scrambling and it’s not a pleasant feeling.  I feel like I’m back in college living on a very structured budget with very little if any room to spend money for fun or savings.  I’m going to try to set up a much more organized and strict outline of how and where my money gets spent so I can start putting more into my savings account. And for this coffee fiend, that means so long Starbucks, but that’s okay, I’ll do what I need to do.
• “How I Met Your Mother” – So after all of that, I decided to come home and watch a little of my newest favorite TV show. It has helped to lift my spirits and make me laugh, like this sage advice from one Barney Stinson.

Tomorrow is a new day and I’m hoping there will be more ups than downs!

Splendid Saturday

Happy Saturday! Hope you’re all having a splendid morning! I’m on the train making my way to Vancouver to spend the weekend with some of my favorite people ever! It’s going to be a fun weekend!

I’ve been looking forward to this all week…well more accurately since I made the plans with Kim. I haven’t seen her since before Christmas, at our beach weekend getaway, and I’m so glad we were able to fit in a visit before our next big get together…”Titanic 3D!” Titanic is the traditional Christmas movie for Kim, Nat and I, so when we heard it was coming out in 3D we knew we had to go, and we are going all out, life-jackets will be part of our movie-going attire!

Anyway…

The train is one of my favorite ways to travel (aside from the time Nat and I got in trouble for talking too loudly), I can just sit back and read, listen to music, sleep, or blog :0). And the people watching/conversations you overhear can make the trip even more entertaining.

The standout from this trip (and I’ve only been on the train for an hour) has been the three kids, who sat right in front of me, who got on the wrong train. So here’s what happened, two teenagers – boyfriend and girlfriend – plus little brother boarded the train in Tacoma. As the conductor comes down the aisle to take our tickets he looks at theirs and says, “Tell me this is wrong and you’re not going to Spokane.” Turns out they were supposed to get on the bus leaving the station just a few minutes before the train left. So, the conductor got in touch with their parents and they made alternate plans to get to their original destination. I know I would have been more than a little upset if that had happened to me as a teenager. Poor kids, they’ve got a long day of travel ahead of them!

Hope Saturday is going more smoothly for you than it is for those 3 kids!

Fill in the Blank Friday

1. The love of my life is…Jesus!

2. Falling in love is…wonderful, exciting, sometimes scary, something I’m waiting for.

3. Marriage is…living side by side with your best friend, it may not always be easy but what an awesome journey to take.

4. The longest relationship I’ve ever had was…9 months – not very long.

5. The key to a good relationship is…building a solid foundation on God, honesty, putting the other person first.

6. I feel loved when…someone goes out of their way for me – whether it’s bringing me a surprise or driving me to the train early in the morning!

7. My favorite quote about love is…well love isn’t mentioned but that’s the heart of the message, “I carry your heart with me, I carry it in my heart.” (ee cummings)

Dear Valentine

Dear Valentine,

Happy Valentine’s Day though we haven’t yet met,

That will be quite a story, I’m willing to bet.

This year I’m celebrating with Harry and Sally,

Noah, Allie, Joe Fox and Kathleen Kelly.

I hope we’ll be together soon,

Perhaps, even by this June.

So Happy Valentine’s wherever you may be,

Wishing love, for you from me.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Happy Valentine’s Day 2012!

Alright, so I have to apologize if it’s been a little depressing around here lately, but I am so excited for Valentine’s Day! I have been planning my Valentine’s Day outfit for days, and we are having a little party in kindergarten today. They have been so excited for Valentine’s Day, yesterday we decorated their little mailboxes and it was like I had given them each a puppy, they loved it! It’s so cute how much joy they get out of little things!

And, I have big plans for tonight…namely a slice of chocolate cake, and a chick flick. :0) So whatever your plans may be I wish you all a very Happy Valentine’s Day!

Ghosts of Boyfriends Past – Part Two

Happy Valentine’s Eve!  I am celebrating this momentous holiday by sporting my hot pink pants in honor of Valentine’s Eve – I’m such a kindergarten teacher, I dress up for holidays! As promised, here’s the second part of my look at boyfriends past…

Boyfriend #2 aka Mr. Popular – Dated for 6 Months

•  Basics A little on the tall side, light brown hair, great sense of humor, friends with everyone, loves Jesus, easygoing, loves his family, easy to talk to, great laugh, interested in sports, movies, Young Life, and just hanging out
• First Meeting I’m not sure exactly how we first met, but we met at some point in high school, and starting in the fall of senior year, we ate lunch together everyday with a group of friends and my sister
• How It All Started It was February of senior year, and Tolo (dance where girls ask the guys) was approaching, I really wanted to go and I wanted to go with Mr. Popular, I talked with my mom, sister and girlfriends about it and they all agreed that I should ask him. Now, I’ve always been fairly shy, especially around guys (I’m a lot more outgoing now than I used to be) and several days went by without me asking him, and time was running out).  So, finally mom told me that I had 24 hours to do it, or I should just forget it.  I went to school and I anxiously watched the hours tick by and then finally there he was at my locker with everyone else who congregated there between classes.  I pulled him aside and nervously asked him to the dance, he said yes, and we officially became a couple right before Valentine’s Day.
• The Good Mr. Popular and I had more in common than I ever felt like I had with Mr. Hipster. We spent most of our time hanging out with our group of friends, and at each other’s houses with each other’s families.  We were both involved with Young Life, and helped out as student leaders. He didn’t tease me about my love of Disney movies, and would gladly watch them with me. I felt like I could tell him whatever was on my mind. We went to church together.
• The Bad He wasn’t super motivated.  He had no post high school plans and I encouraged him to attend community college, my dad pulled some strings and got him a position working with Young Life.  When he went out-of-town and when I didn’t call him as often as he wanted me to it turned into a huge fight, although he never called me either. He had a mentor who didn’t like me and encouraged him to end things with me, I have always wondered if that’s what our break-up came down to.  While we had a lot in common, it kind of felt like our relationship wasn’t a perfect fit – the best I can equate it to is trying on a pair of shoes that fit, but they pinch your pinky toe, or rub against the back of your heel – they’re cute but not right.
• How It Ended August of the summer after senior year, I went over to his house to watch a movie and hang out.  What I was walking into was a break-up.  We had seen each other the night before, at a Young Life event and things were totally fine and seemed normal.  He couldn’t even give me a concrete reason as to why he was ending things, what I remember is both of us crying and him telling me that he didn’t love me anymore.  And perhaps the worst part of this whole break-up was that he left me with the hope that we would get back together, now I don’t mean it was implied, he said it, more than once. And while I was heartbroken, part of me kept clinging to the fact that “we’re going to get back together.”
• The Aftermath I went off to college and didnt’ see Mr. Popular for a long time.  However, we did keep in touch through instant messenger and would talk often.  This went on for several years, and finally I couldn’t take the pull on my heartstrings anymore.  He got married last summer, and is expecting a baby with his wife. I wish him the best and am glad that he’s happy.
• Lessons Learned I want someone who gets along with my family and doesn’t need to go on fancy dates all the time.  I want someone who loves all the silly little things about me. I want someone who has dreams and goals for the future. I learned that I want someone who is right for me, and not someone I try to make fit.

Well, all this may seem depressing but in a way it has been kind of fun to look back on the good (and bad) of relationships past, to think about what I learned.  Happy Valentine’s Eve to you all!

Ghosts of Boyfriends Past – Part One

With Valentine’s Day quickly approaching, a holiday either loved or loathed, I thought that perhaps this would be a good time to reflect on my relationships of the past, a little like Scrooge (minus the whole being horrible part) looking back at Christmases.  I’ve been feeling a bit nostalgic about Valentine’s and the fact that once again I am without someone, not in a depressing way, just matter of factly.  There have only been two years where I had an actual Valentine to spend February 14th with, and those relationships were definitely not ideal.  I am so glad that I am still not celebrating Valentine’s Day with either of my former Valentines.

And in that spirit, I present the no-nonsense look, facts only, of the men – that sounds weird - from my past.

Boyfriend #1 a.ka. Mr. Hipster – Date for 9 Months

• Basics Average height and build, black framed glasses essential part of the look, dark hair, smart, good sense of humor, well liked, interested in theater, books, deep conversation, independent/obscure music, thrifting, movies, technology (one of the only people I know who had a blog in high school)
• First Meeting We met in junior high through mutual friends, and he quickly became a part of my large group of friends.  In ninth grade, my best friend – let’s call her Lola, had a huge crush on him.  We had another friend who was moving away and had a big going away party, I was instrumental in getting Mr. Hipster and Lola to have their first slow dance together, although no relationship blossomed for them after that.
• How It Started Junior year of high school, I started crushing on Mr. Hipster, and really wanted to go to the Homecoming Dance with him. Lola (aka best friend from jr. high) had been asked to go to Homecoming with a slightly nerdy but very sweet friend of Mr. Hipster.  She asked me to tag along with her date and said date would ask Mr. Hipster to come along, so they would each have a sort of security blanket for the evening and ensuring me the evening that I had wanted in the first place, wasn’t this a clever idea!  The four of us made plans and Mr. Hipster and I went into the evening as friends, not as each other’s dates.  Well, the night of the dance rolled around and the guys picked us up at my house .  He brought me flowers even though I wasn’t his date, just because (insert girly squeal her).  Well long story short, what may not have been labeled as a date quickly turned into one.  Two weeks after the dance, in the parking lot of the high school Mr. Hipster asked me to be his girlfriend.
• The Good As he was my first boyfriend, I was head over heels for Mr. Hipster.  He tried to kiss me good-bye on our official first date as he dropped me off, and me being the silly girl I am turned my face at the last moment so all he got was my cheek.  I was taking classes at the local community college so I wasn’t around to see him at school but I would “sneak” onto campus to have lunch with him once a week.  We were both cast in our school’s musical and would spend rehearsals whispering together in the auditorium,  we were both thrilled for all the extra time together, and we were further cast together as a couple in the play.  He would always come up with creative dates for us.  He wrote about me on his blog.  He liked surprising me.
• The Bad I sort of always felt like I wasn’t quite cool enough for him.  Throughout the time we dated there was another girl, an upper classmen, who I knew had a crush on him and I could tell he knew and enjoyed that she did (they started dating not long after we broke up). There were several other occurrences of me worrying over a wandering eye, and he didn’t do much to reassure me that I was his girl. I didn’t always feel like I could honestly share what was on my heart.  He intimidated me at times. We never spent time with each other’s families.  He knew my friends, but I didn’t really know his. He was disappointed that I didn’t plan dates and if I did that mine weren’t as creative as his.
• How It Ended Things with us had been up and down for a while and one August afternoon he called and asked me to meet him downtown at the waterfront what had been our spot.  I remember getting in the car thinking, this is it he’s going to end it.  I arrived first, journal in hand, and prayed and wrote about what I thought and dreaded to be coming.  Sure enough when he arrived we broke up.  The basics of it came down to that he felt I wasn’t open enough with him in conversation, I didn’t say what was on my mind – at least that’s what he told me.  I was heartbroken and remember him leaving as I sat on the bench and tried to hold the tears back until he left.  My sister was my savior in that breakup, when I got back home, she made me go to the pool and swim laps with her, she made my favorite cookies, cleaned my room, made me a Boys are yucky card, took down all my pictures of us together and replaced Mr. Hipster’s face with guys cut out of magazines.
• The Aftermath Mr. Hipster and I still were in each other’s lives, though our social circles had somewhat changed.   We were both on the yearbook staff the following school year, as well as baccalaureate committee, and had many of the same classes.  He wasn’t the same friendly guy that I remembered from before we dated, and we weren’t friends again. The last time I saw him, was November(?) 2010 at the wedding reception of that junior high best friend, Lola. I’m not exactly sure where life has taken him, but I hope that he’s happy.
• Lessons Learned Looking back now, I see so many red flags that should have clued me in that we weren’t right for each other.   I learned that you have to speak up and say what’s on your mind, and that I can’t let other people bully me, or convince me of how I should feel. I learned that I want someone who wants to be with me and it’s okay if I don’t have a brilliant thought every time we talk, it’s okay to just be with each other sometimes.  It’s okay to have my own opinion, I don’t have to conform to someone else’s ideas.

 

Wow, that was a lot to say! I think I’m going to have to break this into another day before we get to any more gentlemen. Until next time…

Thursday Latelies

Happy Thursday, well almost Friday, here are some things bringing me joy this week!

New Haircut I am loving my new haircut! Might be my favorite haircut ever!

Big Stud Earrings I call these my 50s housewife earrings. They are so fun, I got these at Nordstrom (BP department) a few months ago, and have loved wearing them!

365 Journal I have been jotting down little thoughts every day, like a time capsule. I’ve always kept a journal, but never like this and it’s been a fun way to reflect on each day.

Puppy Cuddles Alright so the puppy was on the list last time, but she’s just so sweet!

See you next Thursday!

Random Ramblings

Nothing too eventful going on in this corner of the world. But here are the headlines…

• I got a haircut this weekend, this was my inspiration (Diana Agron, Glee)

• I am currently obsessed with How I Met Your Mother, it’s hilarious and sweet, and as silly as it sounds, I’ve been kind of feeling sad about not having a special someone in my life and it has kind of made me realize that everything in life has its own timing and things happen in life for a reason – I know totally cheesy, but it’s true!

• Shopping for pants is not fun, I’ve been trying to find new jeans and it is frustrating!

And those are tonight’s headlines, you stay classy San Diego!

Fill in the Blank Friday

1. If money wasn’t an issue, the first thing I’d cross of my life list is…travel! Paris, London, Rome, Norway, Australia, Hawaii, everywhere!

2. Peanut butter on Oreos…is something I like that other people think is weird.

3. If my life were a movie right now, the title would be…”Confessions of a Kindergarten Teacher.”

4. Three things I am looking forward to this month are…visiting Kim and Tim, kindergarten Valentine’s Day party, and more hours of daylight (yay! Spring is on the way)!

5. My favorite song to sing in the shower is…Disney songs, show tunes, music from Glee.

6. If I found out that the production of…tortilla chips and salsa…was ending this month, I’d go out and buy as much as I could tomorrow.

7. One thing I’ll never grow tired is…long conversations with good friends!