Happy Valentine’s Eve! I am celebrating this momentous holiday by sporting my hot pink pants in honor of Valentine’s Eve – I’m such a kindergarten teacher, I dress up for holidays! As promised, here’s the second part of my look at boyfriends past…
Boyfriend #2 aka Mr. Popular – Dated for 6 Months
- Basics A little on the tall side, light brown hair, great sense of humor, friends with everyone, loves Jesus, easygoing, loves his family, easy to talk to, great laugh, interested in sports, movies, Young Life, and just hanging out
- First Meeting I’m not sure exactly how we first met, but we met at some point in high school, and starting in the fall of senior year, we ate lunch together everyday with a group of friends and my sister
- How It All Started It was February of senior year, and Tolo (dance where girls ask the guys) was approaching, I really wanted to go and I wanted to go with Mr. Popular, I talked with my mom, sister and girlfriends about it and they all agreed that I should ask him. Now, I’ve always been fairly shy, especially around guys (I’m a lot more outgoing now than I used to be) and several days went by without me asking him, and time was running out). So, finally mom told me that I had 24 hours to do it, or I should just forget it. I went to school and I anxiously watched the hours tick by and then finally there he was at my locker with everyone else who congregated there between classes. I pulled him aside and nervously asked him to the dance, he said yes, and we officially became a couple right before Valentine’s Day.
- The Good Mr. Popular and I had more in common than I ever felt like I had with Mr. Hipster. We spent most of our time hanging out with our group of friends, and at each other’s houses with each other’s families. We were both involved with Young Life, and helped out as student leaders. He didn’t tease me about my love of Disney movies, and would gladly watch them with me. I felt like I could tell him whatever was on my mind. We went to church together.
- The Bad He wasn’t super motivated. He had no post high school plans and I encouraged him to attend community college, my dad pulled some strings and got him a position working with Young Life. When he went out-of-town and when I didn’t call him as often as he wanted me to it turned into a huge fight, although he never called me either. He had a mentor who didn’t like me and encouraged him to end things with me, I have always wondered if that’s what our break-up came down to. While we had a lot in common, it kind of felt like our relationship wasn’t a perfect fit – the best I can equate it to is trying on a pair of shoes that fit, but they pinch your pinky toe, or rub against the back of your heel – they’re cute but not right.
- How It Ended August of the summer after senior year, I went over to his house to watch a movie and hang out. What I was walking into was a break-up. We had seen each other the night before, at a Young Life event and things were totally fine and seemed normal. He couldn’t even give me a concrete reason as to why he was ending things, what I remember is both of us crying and him telling me that he didn’t love me anymore. And perhaps the worst part of this whole break-up was that he left me with the hope that we would get back together, now I don’t mean it was implied, he said it, more than once. And while I was heartbroken, part of me kept clinging to the fact that “we’re going to get back together.”
- The Aftermath I went off to college and didnt’ see Mr. Popular for a long time. However, we did keep in touch through instant messenger and would talk often. This went on for several years, and finally I couldn’t take the pull on my heartstrings anymore. He got married last summer, and is expecting a baby with his wife. I wish him the best and am glad that he’s happy.
- Lessons Learned I want someone who gets along with my family and doesn’t need to go on fancy dates all the time. I want someone who loves all the silly little things about me. I want someone who has dreams and goals for the future. I learned that I want someone who is right for me, and not someone I try to make fit.
Well, all this may seem depressing but in a way it has been kind of fun to look back on the good (and bad) of relationships past, to think about what I learned. Happy Valentine’s Eve to you all!
Tags: boyfriends, Love, past, Valentine's Day
